blind faith 600x400 1 - Pitfalls to Avoid

I truly empathize with people having to go through a divorce. They want to hire an attorney they can trust, but don’t know how to select one or even what to base their decisions upon. They don’t realize the gravity of what could really happen to them at the time so they choose attorneys based upon factors that shouldn’t be their major concern like price, location, and convenience. They select attorneys like they were looking for a supermarket or a dry cleaner.

Trust is earned, it is not just given. Yet, that’s exactly what you have to do when you hire a divorce attorney. You will be entrusting that lawyer to try and convince the Judge that your spouse should comply with all of your decisions about when you see your children, how everything you have acquired up to this point in your life should be divided, how much you will either pay or receive in support, and for how long. In essence, you will be hiring a complete stranger to resolve the most important issues in your life.

You will also be paying that lawyer a lot of money if you want your case done correctly. It will take a lot of time to make sure that all of the relevant facts in your case are gathered and evaluated, that all of the issues arising from those facts are thoroughly researched, accurately stated, and convincingly presented to the Court. And since attorneys charge by the hour, that large amount of time ends up being very costly. However, only you can decide how important the issues in your case are and what you are willing to spend to have them favorably resolved.

Clients also usually don’t take the process as seriously as they should until it’s too late, such as when something very important to them is about to be lost. And when the case does not get over as quickly as they expected and/or it’s costing them more than they thought they would have to pay, they start taking advice from people who are not qualified to give them legal advice, like friends and family whose only claim to authority is that they had a divorce, or knew somebody who had a divorce. They become disillusioned and start switching attorneys which only increases the length of the case and costs them more because the new attorney has to relearn the case.

I have learned these lessons and many, many more over my 30+ years of handling divorce cases. These types of behavior became very real to me when my own personal divorce caused me to act the same way everyone else going through a divorce does despite the fact I should have known better. Emotion is a very powerful force that causes normal people to do things they would never dream of doing at any other time. There are many pitfalls in divorce to avoid.

If you want to avoid a lot of the trauma and expensive mistakes that almost everyone makes in a divorce, you need to hire a very competent attorney to help you, not just a decent one. Put a lot of effort into choosing your lawyer. And once you do select one, listen carefully to what they have to say, make sure you understand what they recommend, and follow their advice closely. No matter what, take the process seriously. Don’t put yourself into a position where you allow your emotions to make your decisions and seriously prejudice yourself. You will regret bad decision-making during your divorce long after the case is done.

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